There it is. You can’t ignore it. But you do. No one says anything. We pretend it’s not there. But we’re all waiting for it to come up. We talk around it. We don’t talk about it. We’re hoping it just goes away. But it doesn’t. Then it happens. The elephant moves and now it has to be dealt with because you can’t deal with any else other than the elephant. So if we know the elephant is there, why are we not dealing with it?
We’ve all been in the situation where there is something that needs to be addressed but yet, it’s not. It’s known as the “elephant in the room”. It’s so looming and takes up so much space, you have to deal with it. However, people often avoid them because they don’t know how to deal with it or are afraid of the ramifications of confronting someone’s elephant.
I naturally want to confront issues. When a problem or conflict arises I charge out to meet it head on. In my mind I think, “better to deal with it now then let it become a bigger problem later”. I also don’t like to leave things unsaid or unresolved. I like closure. I like to check the box so I can move on. The advantage of this is that elephants aren’t ignored. Problems are dealt with in the moment. Nothing lingers to cause future issues. However, one of the glaring downsides is that I often walk into highly emotional conversations that can quickly devolve into unproductive arguing because I just want to get past it instead of taking the time to actually address or resolve it.
Deftly dealing with elephants is a worthwhile skill to learn. This is even more so at the negotiating table because elephants can lead to ambiguity. Ambiguity leads to a sense of uncertainty that can unravel or derail a deal or create massive confusion when implementing the deal. Here are three tips that were passed onto me that I use to approach the elephants:
The sooner you tame the elephants, the sooner you can move past them and deal with the issues at hand. If you choose to ignore the elephants, beware of the stampede to follow.
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About the author:
Sure, we could whip up a snappy bio about Brian’s experience as an entrepreneur, business owner, and Fortune 500 executive. While we’re at it, we could go on for an afternoon about his 20 years in marketing and advertising, developing brilliant consumer-engagement strategies for the likes of Google, Amazon, Samsung, Virgin Mobile, Microsoft, and Sony. But knowing Brian, he’d rather we not. Instead, he’d likely ask us to focus on something else — namely, other people ...